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Well here we go again, another professional (I use that term very loosely) spouting off on the evil of psychic vampires. Nothing positive in this article, just the nasty stuff. There's apparently only one side of the coin in this article or opinion.  >:(


Dealing with Energy Vampires
Craig Harper

January 16, 2008
They live among us.
In human form.

To the untrained eye, it is almost impossible to tell the difference.
Typically they look like you and I.
But they're not.
They're not like us at all.

They are Vampires and their modus operandi is not to steal your blood but rather, your precious energy.
Your life-force.
Your mojo.
To drain you emotionally and psychologically.
To frustrate you with their repetitious, self-indulgent, attention-seeking diatribe.

They are often bitter, angry and resentful.... and they want you to share their pain.
They don't want solutions, they want pity.
They don't want constructive feedback, they want attention.
They don't want to take responsibility, they want to blame and vent.
They seem to revel in their own misery.
Day in, day out.
They have the same conversations about the same issues with the same people and produce the same result; no change.

They major on minors.
They bring others down.
They have a gift for finding the negative.

They are emotionally exhausting to be around.

They inhabit our work places, our families, our schools and they permeate every corner of society.

Note: I will point out that Energy Vampires are not to be confused with the vast majority of people who simply need help, support, direction and care... and are serious about working on themselves and their situation. They are also not to be confused with people who are genuinely looking for answers (not attention or sympathy) and are prepared to accept responsibility, be accountable and be proactive.

No, the people I'm talking about here are relentless in their negativity and their 'woe-is-me' ness (a Craigism).

As most of you know, I am serious about helping people create their best life and I choose to spend much of my life working with a wide range of people to help them confront and deal with their issues and create their own version of amazing... but I'm not about letting people monopolise (or waste) my time and energy and I won't buy into their crap attitude or their negativity. I don't care how messed up someone's life or situation is, if they have a good attitude, I'll help them.
Gladly.

If they're a Vampire, I'm outa there.

See ya, wouldn't wanna be ya.

It's great to be a giver, a carer and a feeler (sometimes), but now and then we need to take a stand with certain people.. because if we don't, we begin to suffer and then nobody wins.

So here are my tried and proven tips for dealing with Energy Vampires.
(Not every tip is appropriate for every person and situation but you might find some of them useful)

1. Identify the Vampires in your life, acknowledge the impact they have on you and make a resolution to change the way you communicate (interact with, exist with) those people.

2. Don't buy into their life's-not-fair-and-nobody-understands-me monologues. Feed it and you'll create a monster.


3. Be straight with them and tell them that you will not have the same conversations about the same issues any more (yes this takes courage).

4. This sounds harsh, but some Vampires need to be avoided.

5. Don't give them too much time. When a Vampire walks into my office I stand as if I'm about to go somewhere. I'll give them a few minutes and if I feel we're heading down the same old path, I'll start walking and shut the conversation down.

6. Ask them questions like "so you've identified the issues, tell me how you can change things for the better?"

7. If you have a Vampire who is in your life to stay (family perhaps), create some rules of engagement... "I will not talk about 'these' issues again until I see you doing XYZ."

8. Choose your friends and acquaintances wisely. Make sure you spend (lots of) time with people who will drag you up, not down. You need to keep your tank full.
Spending lots of time with Vampires is draining and unenjoyable.


Footnote: Sometimes I struggle with some subject matter.
I often wonder whether or not I should cover some topics, or let them slide. I have had this weird kind of internal, cerebral tug-of-war about writing this particular post... but lately I have been working with lots of people who are struggling with Energy Vampires in their world and it just seemed to be timely and for many people, relevant.

Even though I am a professional motivational speaker and a personal development writer, I don't feel compelled to write what people (necessarily) want to hear.
I do feel compelled to be honest, helpful, practical and realistic and to write what (I believe) people need to hear. The truth is that creating positive change in our life is not only an amazing, enlightening, educational and rewarding growth process... but it also often a messy, impractical, difficult, lumpy, bumpy and (at times) painful journey.
But it's all worth it.

I know that sometimes what I write is not the 'typical' personal development message and not necessarily embraced by everyone.
I'm okay with that.

I'm not interested in making people feel warm and fuzzy (for ten minutes), I'm interested in cutting through the BS and dealing with real issues in a real and practical way so that you, the reader, might create your best life.
If all my writing does for you is entertain you, push a few buttons every now and then, and periodically make you chuckle, then I'm failing at my job.

Reading my posts ain't enough.
Thinking about it ain't enough.
Talking about it ain't enough.
And even planning... ain't enough.

It's always about doing.

I know my message is not always 'nice', comfortable or universally embraced, but it's the truth.
So that's what you'll get.

Source: americanchronicle.com

Well isn't he a class act.  :-\.  Oh don't get me started..................................

Lovely, just lovely.  :groooan:

What a freaking tard. By the way, who is this idiot? I have never heard of him.

Here's more information on him: http://www.americanchronicle.com:80/articles/25216

So he's a self important jerkhole.

You got it!!

When I come across things like this, it just irritates me to no end.
People like this only see the negative and they tend to stereotype.
It's because of jerks like this, that I built this website. There's always a jerk or two in any subculture, in any group and  I can understand someone running into a person who does not have ethics or someone whose been under attack from a less then ethical person. But to claim all psi vampires are evil and will just drain you, well that's complete rubbish.
And it's something I feel very strongly about and hopefully enough people will stand up to these idiots like this one and say something.

I'm glad you did build the site Mel. Education is your friend. People like this pick easy targets. And unfortunately the Vampire community is an easy target. ADN and DE are great. But for every good site there are probably 10 bad ones. Which makes it easy for some pompous asshole to take a stab at.

From what I can see, he really doesn't have the credentials to be talking about a topic like this. It says he is a motivational speaker and what he is doing is, motivating people to dislike PSI Vampires

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I'm sorry but Bobby summed it up with the freaking tard thing.  I haven't hear tard used in a sentence in a long time and just about fell off my chair. 

You have got to be kidding. What kind of idiot would label a group in general. People are so different everywhere.
What a freak. If he only knew how dumb and ignorant this article makes him look.


LMAO good one Bobby  :lol: :lol: :lol:

That article looks more like propaganda than something to be taken seriously.

But yeah, the sad reality is that a lot of people will probably believe this guy because they do not care to think in terms of "well not all can be bad" or simply do not do their research before making judgment.  It is like how some people may think that all Kali devouts are evil just because of one little group (or propaganda, depending on how you view it) called the Cult of Thugee and overlook people like Sri Ramakrishna. 



Sincerely,
TheRadiantSeraphim

What a crock.  People will do anything for money and theres always a fool or two who will fall for such propaganda.

Someplace else recently there were words regarding those ignorant individuals who were quicker to cast accusation and to bring the torches to the township, rather than engage in some resemblance to a mature and somewhat academic styled debate on exactly what this is all about.

1692 was a year that many presume is retained in history's memory. One quote that I found that fits my thoughts is interesting:

"The events that took place in the town of Salem and nearby towns in Massachusetts will be forever regarded as one of our young nation's most tarnished moments in history. We won't forget. We can't forget." www.salemwitchtrials.com

We won't forget, we can't forget, but many have and as usual its the bane of the human condition to forget. How often have torch bearers such as this come along to re-kindle the flames of discontent and blind hatred amongst a populace? Without getting all too open with contemporary commentary, which save, I won't do, there is a common age resurgence in extremist fundamentalist mindsets that do seem to be taking everything from the local Township budgets to the form of national political debate and the shape of the Laws that affect everyone to storm to suit their own purposes.

Words and thoughts like this do remind me of the unfortunate Templars, all wiped out and deprived of their lives, only to have to wait 700+ years for some capped and throned figure to come clean and admit they were wrong to advance on that storm-front in the first place. A fire is an easy thing to light, be it in the minds of people or the pole fixed in the Town Square that awaits an extremists fisted following and their sticks and matches.

Yes, all too often, the human condition is to forget and bring past reactions into todays lifestyles. I'll be very happy when the great shift comes along and widens some perspectives. I personally grow tired of such ignorant hateful people, and I rarely make public statements like that.

Peace>

Allin>

The problem I find with fires though is, they can start out small, but if left untended can grow out of control much like the events that you sited Allin.  Which is very unfortunate.  Lets hope that others can see this fool for what he really is.

There is no end to the stupidity of the masses. You can take 500 intelligent individuals, place them in a square, and watch them completely lose all semblance of humanity. Did we learn nothing from the French Revolution? It started out with a grand idea to make the world a better place for everyone. And it became a massacre.

People like this Craig are the reason that those of us who are "different" have had to hide for generations. And yes, Allin, that is exactly what happend in Salem and the Inquisition as well.

Frankly, it scares the hell out of me to think that people like this actually are still willing to "crusade" over things like this. Don't we have enough "holy wars" going on in the world right now without idiots like this starting new ones?