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Poppy
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« on: March 05, 2008, 11:24:37 PM »
I ended a relationship of two years tonight. It was hard as hell and I am sitting here crying, but it had to be done.

The last year I have been being assured everything would get better soon. *laughs sadly* I finally came to the conclusion that this relationship was destroying me.
Mind  you it wasn't my only source of pain and stress. There have been many things going on the past few months.  This certainly added to the problem though.

I'm tired of being there at someone's beck and call yet never having any support on the occasions when I need it because he is too distraught. I am tired of the drama.
Better alone than the way it has been.

I know it hurt him and he doesn't seem to understand why I did this.  That is what hurts the most.
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« Reply #1 on: March 05, 2008, 11:46:17 PM »
I'm sorry to hear about this Poppy. It's never easy ending a relationship.  But sometimes you got to do whats best for you, no matter how hurtful it may seem right now, in the near future you will realize you did the right thing for both of you.
We're here for you!  Hugs
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« Reply #2 on: March 05, 2008, 11:57:32 PM »
Thanks hun. *hugs* I know it was the right thing for me, but I feel so damn guilty.  I'm an idiot.  *walks away mumbling and goes to find the ice cream*
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« Reply #3 on: March 06, 2008, 01:52:55 AM »
I am sorry to hear about what happened.  :-(  I know that there were many times when I called it quits in my own relationship, but sometimes it is best to do that. 

:::Hugs.::::  If you feel like talking about it, I am willing to listen at least.  I cannot be a therapist (that is against the site rules anyway and 'unprofessional' on my part since I am unlicensed), but I can at least, again, listen and provide unprofessional advice.  These things are not easy to overcome and no matter how introverted, or how much of a hermit some people are, let us face it...humans are social creatures.  We need some sort of company.   It is in our psyche.


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« Reply #4 on: March 06, 2008, 02:34:57 AM »
Sorry to hear about that Poppy. I've just cut the ties with a 7 year relationship myself. The demands on the relationship were strecthing me extremely thin. Of course, it doesn't help that the other person was the one that ended it. I just simply  Undecided choose to "walk" away.  Cry
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« Reply #5 on: March 06, 2008, 03:33:27 AM »
Thanks for your support guys.  The sad thing is that even though I am sad it is somehow (at the same time) a relief.  I'll miss the good things of course but not the bad, and the bad had been outweighing the good for a bit now.
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« Reply #6 on: March 06, 2008, 04:58:43 AM »
Sorry to hear it my friend. But sounds like it is for the best. We are here for you always.  Hugs
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« Reply #7 on: March 06, 2008, 08:01:04 AM »
*hugs*
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« Reply #8 on: March 06, 2008, 11:32:06 AM »
You're strong and you will pull out of this fine. I am betting on that Wink
 Sometimes we make choices in life that are not easy but in the end are what's best. So don't feel guilty. Do eat lots of ice cream though!!
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« Reply #9 on: March 06, 2008, 02:32:42 PM »
Thanks! lol
I am strong. I've been through a hell of a lot in my life so I know this will be ok too.
It just always hurts a bit. even if it was time and was very necessary.

Why can't intellect and emotion get together on this kind of thing?  Tongue
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« Reply #10 on: March 06, 2008, 09:48:08 PM »
I can relate to how you're feeling right now, but we have you and I think that we all agree that we are better for it. Hugs
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« Reply #11 on: March 06, 2008, 09:59:08 PM »
Awwwwwwwwwwwww *group hug*
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« Reply #12 on: March 07, 2008, 09:52:32 AM »
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« Reply #13 on: March 07, 2008, 08:33:19 PM »
Oh I am so sorry to hear that but it is for the best, I think... We are all here for you.  Hugs
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« Reply #14 on: March 08, 2008, 02:42:42 PM »
"We find in perfect love the freedom of our self. That only which is donde for love is done freely, however much pain it may cause. Therefore, working for love is freedom in action"

Rabindranath Tagore

The wretched lover hides behind his or her first failure, so as not to burn their fingers again at the fire. The lover hides behind his misfortune and try to escape from the possibility of a future joy. That’s why love requires a lot of courage and faith. I know it is difficult because it seems like love is so short and forgetting is so long, but we try to understand that it is an inevitable process.

So do not give up!


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« Reply #15 on: March 08, 2008, 05:42:43 PM »
Quote from: Cosme on March 08, 2008, 02:42:42 PM
"We find in perfect love the freedom of our self. That only which is donde for love is done freely, however much pain it may cause. Therefore, working for love is freedom in action"

Rabindranath Tagore

The wretched lover hides behind his or her first failure, so as not to burn their fingers again at the fire. The lover hides behind his misfortune and try to escape from the possibility of a future joy. That’s why love requires a lot of courage and faith. I know it is difficult because it seems like love is so short and forgetting is so long, but we try to understand that it is an inevitable process.

So do not give up!




I love that poet (Rabindranath Tagore). He wrote a lovely poem about endless love.

Anyway...while it is hardly my first love, I do understand what you are saying.
Thank you.
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