I used to think so. I hate change, I like to be secure and safe in my stagnation. lol Even if it the situation / stagnation that is making me uncomfortable.

The other day someone I spoke with said the most profound thing. They said :

"Change itself is not painful, it's my resistance to change that makes it painful. "


Wow. I thought about that deeply for a while and even felt that it was something I wanted to remember.

Yes that is it. Surrendering to change is not easy for me, I do resist, I do rebel . "Everything I let go of had claw marks in it" lol Another saying I stole.

Why should it be difficult to let go of things that are harming you?  So much so that we'd be willing to let in more pain?

With pain coming at all humans from every direction in this million mile an hour rat race we call life, why shouldn't change take it's rightful place on the unending list of things that are painful?

I've heard it said that pain is the craft entering the student, but I don't believe all change is good. Not all movement is forward.

I don't think just for the sake of change is always a good thing. And I'm not talking hairstyles or wardrobe. I'm talking like changing religious paths just because you want to. And not because your actual beliefs have changed. I do feel that necessary change, although sometimes painful is good in the end.

Very true. I mean if I looked back at my life and never changed since grade school, what would my life me like? What would I be like?

I think a lot of us would look at some of the folks we dated over the years, or jobs we had or things we didn't want to 'grow past', and say 'why on Earth did I want to keep that in my life? I'm so much better for it's absence".