I wish I could help you hon, but I'm not married and never have been married and religion has never been issue in a relationship.

It wasn't fair of him to out you to your daughter like that. It sounds like you have already made up your mind that you are not going to change your beliefs. I would just suggest that you explain that to him and your kids. Tell them, they don't have to follow the same path. All you are asking for is a little acceptance and understanding and do that as calmly as possible. That's all I can tell you. I hope he understands. Sorry I can't help much!

 

It sounds like he's using this as ammunition. Possibly he's afraid the path you've chosen will lead you away from him, it's hard to say, but I believe calm communication is the only way to go with him. It may be hard but it may also prove to him you're not into some "trendy scene religion" that's kooky!

Everybody has the right to follow their own chosen path.

I see that this topic is a bit old but felt like responding anyways because I've gone through the same thing with my 'guy'.

1. The Kids - kids are way more open to these sort of things than we think and usually are interested in other religions but are fearful of asking about them, so being open and willing to discuss or explore all religious and spiritual paths with your kids is important as well as explaining that you may not believe in the 'Christian God' but that doesn't mean that you don't have a belief in a divine being (if in fact you do, I'm not sure). But if your kids are being taught that they have to 'be a certain way' in order to 'get to heaven' then most likely they are upset at the idea that you 'won't go to heaven' than anything else. Or so I've found with my kids.

2. The Husband - I am guessing or assuming that his family is fairly religious and possibly he is worried or is getting backlash from them about you're religious choices and he is unable to defend you because he doesn't understand it. I had the same problem with my husband and I found out that hiding it was more harmful. By talking openly about what I believed or why I chose not to believe in things we were able to open a line of communication and share with each other thoughts and theories that we had had as children but could never validate because of our Catholic/Christian parents. He may not agree with everything that I do but he understands that my 'witchcraft' isn't all broomsticks and newt-eyes, lol. It also tends to be a little frightening to men (sorry to the men here as I'm generalizing) that you have found something that doesn't have to include them and may take you 'away from him'. So you need to make it clear that this is something that you are doing for you and that you have a right to do it as well (preferably said in a nice way, lol)

As for the altar, I make mine look like nothing more than a display case of objects that I like. Some 'smarter' people figure out what it is but most are pretty ignorant of what an altar looks like or what the objects functions really are so they don't question it.

Good Luck with whatever happens or has happened.

Actually I see it happen surprisingly often. I causes a great deal of drama on the boards I am on.